Tough life challenges test our mettle in many ways. But, perhaps, the most important test to enduring a hard time well is to free your heart of resentment.
No matter the nature of your hard time, to move beyond it, you will have to let go of what has been, what others may have done to you, and most importantly, the hand you may have played in bringing about what’s happening right now. Freeing your heart of resentment turns your heart break into a heart open with which you have enough strength, dignity and grace to renew yourself, no matter how hard the task may be. With an open heart, you are positioned well to bring into your life right circumstance, right people, and more self-love. By right, I mean—that which enriches you emotionally and spiritually.
To turn your heart from breaking to open, you have to release any thoughts, feelings and behavior that are unhelpful or burdensome to appreciating all that has been, no matter how hard and painful. This after all is your life. You have to say, in effect, “I have the courage to let go of my resentment to whatever I’m holding on to and to open myself to people, situations, and things that are more helpful to my personal growth and well-being.”
To start trusting in a future that you may not be able to envision at this time, you must open your heart. Claim whatever anger, bitterness or dislike you have toward the past, others, or you yourself, first. Then, let my Declarations of a Free and Open Heart that follow keep you on the straight and narrow pathway to accepting what is, appreciating what is right and good in your life and loving yourself and life fully, once again.
- I trust in thoughts, feelings and behavior that helps me to endure.
- I accept what has been; I’m ready to move forward with my whole mind, body, and spirit.
- I will not spend time romancing old dramas and what has been.
- I allow no one and no thing to spoil my unburdened heart.
- I stand firm toward all that strengthens my resolve.
- I use my heart break as an opening to more self-love for all of what I am learning in life rather than what I have or have not achieved.
- I let go and trust in the future, because I have myself.
- I look after my open heart in word, feeling, and action.
- I recognize that only I am responsible for getting through my hard time.
- I honor endurance as my chief purpose.
Although life tests each of us in different ways, one thing is for sure, we are all being asked to open our hearts to the awe of living, despite a downward turn in finances, relationships, or health. I know this is no easy task, with much loss and pain. But, the greatest power that each of us has is the ability to endure.Seize the chance to use this healing power in your life during this time.